Post # 1
Hello Bees! I’m new here and was wondering if anyone else planned (or is planning) their wedding under similar circumstances:
My wedding is over a year away, and that should be plenty of time to plan a wedding, right? Well not so much… Fiance and I live in TX, but the wedding is in MD (my hometown/church/family/etc is here). I wouldn’t want to have it anywhere else.
Not only that, but we both work offshore on a 30/15 schedule, or 30 days straight and then come home to TX for 15 days, rotating like that ad infinitum. We spend 8.5 months out of the year living/working on separate boats and are only really at home for 3.5 months out of the year, spending the full 15 days off together if we are lucky.
We are flying up to MD to stay with my parents for about 5-6 days this month to hopefully knock out a lot of the big important things. Top of my list is (finding!) and booking the venue for the reception and other checklist items that will follow this, and driving to NY to meet a friend/photograper to have engagement photos taken.
It makes it rather difficult to get started on the wedding planning process working on the boat (not always having a good phone/aircard signal) and not being in MD often where we would be able to really accomplish things. Right now all I have is the ceremony location, officiant, a rough guest list and a possible photographer (same one who will take e-photos and would be coming from NY). Aside from that, I just have a slew of ideas ping-ponging inside my head that I haven’t managed to straighten out yet.
I am relatively calm right now…but I know I am going to get frenzied as the months go by and I start realizing just how much I have to do, and in what little time I have to do it.
Has anyone else encountered this sort of hurdle with planning the wedding? Any advice?
Post # 3
Welcome to weddingbee! There are a lot of things that you can accomplish online when you are home instead of having to travel there. I would also delegate some tasks that you don’t care about as much to local family members who are willing to help you out. You can do it as long as you are willing to compromise and let some of the details out of your hands. Good luck!
Post # 4
In your situation, since you are both on boats all the time, I’d consider hiring a wedding planner to do the leg work. You really won’t be able to do as much as you’d like. Like MissAsb said, you won’t be able to focus on details very easily.
Post # 5
Yes, that is what i was starting to think about…and guess what, my cousin happens to be a wedding planner/coordinator! She has said that for family, she will do the Day of Coordination for free. (I really don’t know much about any of this coordination/planning stuff) But I’m starting to wonder if I should call her up and utilize her services a little bit more given our unique situation. If I was able to be home more and have more time with the Fiance to work on all the details, I’d attempt it sans planner..
I was suspecting that I would need to have some sort of a planner to help out. I will bring it up with the Fiance. 🙂
Post # 6
I think you will need a coordinator before the day of for all the details that you don’t have time to deal with. I didn’t even have a day of coordinator, not everyone really needs them if the location is good at organizing events on their own.
Post # 7
I am getting married on Mackinac Island which is in the same state where I live (but many guests are out of state) but quite far away and at a destination location so I have experienced some of the same issues.
I second @MissAsB….do a lot online, stay very organized, hire a day or coordinator if possible (or designate a trusted aunt or cousin or friend to help with certain day of details).
It can be done! good luck 🙂 and welcome to the hive!
Post # 8
Thank you so much for the advice!
I am hoping to not have too many details to worry about, but I’m sure they will come up as the planning goes along. I’d like to keep things simple, but still have some sort of personalization.
I think we will see how much we are able to accomplish in 5 days in MD next week. Then maybe sit down with my wedding coordinator cousin to see what she thinks we still have to do and then decide if we will need any more help.
Wish us luck! Hopefully I will have a promising update afterwards. 🙂
Post # 9
There is a ton you can do from long distance – I’ve planned my whole wedding that way (just not from a boat). I was living in CA for most of the planning and am now in TX for the final stuff with a wedding in IN. I’ve only been home one time for about 3 days during the planning.
Since your family is still in MD, have one or two people help you out with visiting locations, vendors, etc. My mom has been a huge help for me in that regard. She took pictures of venues I’d found online and emailed my those and the info she learned so we could make decisions. Same thing with vendors, we talked about my ideas and she’d talk to vendors for me. Plus, as MissAsB said, there is a ton you can do online and via email.
I planned mine in 10.5 months (a lot of which – 4 or 5 months – was downtime where we really weren’t doing anything wedidng related). I think you could do it without a wedding coordinator if you wanted to save that expense. Just recruit a family member or two to help out with stuff in MD since you can’t be there in person!