Post # 1
So I’m not legitimately annoyed at this, its just something that makes me chuckle in an annoyed sort of way :p I am young and petit and my mom and I have gone out to look at dresses a few times. Without exception, the first words out of any salesperson’s mouth are, “Oh my gosh, you’re so CUTE! You would look so cute in these!” *grabs twenty Cinderella ball gown, all covered in bows and ruffles*
It doesn’t help that my mom reeeeeally wants me in a ball gown. I’m not someone who is going to get a dress simply because my mom loves it, so that’s not the problem. Its just that after we get through the first several dresses that the saleslady and my mom insist on me trying on, we hardly have enough time for me to try on what I like. My mom is buying the dress, so I definitely don’t mind trying on a few ruffly ball gowns so she’s content.
But I want a grown-up dress! Its hard to explain because its like the opposite of a “cute dress” is a “sexy dress,” but that’s not what I’m going for either.
Anyway, between my wedding being almost two years away and me being 19 and barely 100 pounds, I really just never get taken seriously. Luckily it hasn’t caused any major problems yet, so I’m sure its something I will get to look back and laugh at.
Is anyone else getting the “You’re so cute!” drama? You know, people wanting to sell you sparkly invitations, planners wanting to cover your venue in bows and ruffles, hairstylists wanting to give you a head full of baby doll curls, etc. Let me know!
Post # 3
Lets start with saying I’m 4’10” and 95 lbs. HECK YES I get that and whats worse is I get the “O you’re so cute trying on rings and dresses when your just kid dreaming about your wedding” WTF people I am almost 21 about to graduate, back off I am old enough to do all this. It also doesn’t help that I don’t actually have my ring yet so I really look like I’m playing dress up. I just politly tell them I am 20 and woman that can make her own decisions. I love being on the short and small size but it does kinda suck when I want people to take me serious about being engaged. Well there is my vent and us small people need to stick together!!! lol
Post # 4
i get this all the time! i’m 27 (28 in july), 5 ft tall and 90 pounds. the “you’re so cute!” comments do get annoying, but the question that really bothers me is “do you eat?” i get asked this ALL the time. the sales girl at my first fitting asked me that. they’re lucky i had already bought my dress there otherwise i would have left.
Post # 5
@lilchicana: O my goodness that i must say is the worst! I cannot walk into my grandmothers house without her asking about my eating habits. I have a very healthy appetite thank you very much. I had one lady at a jewelry store act offended when a size 6 ring was too big for me, its like sorry I’m skinnier then you but that is so not my fault.
Post # 6
When I was younger I used to get called cute a lot and I used to find it really wearing… nobody would say I was sexy, or pretty, or even smart or funny etc. I just got called cute. That said, it certainly doesn’t happen any more LOL… I look my age more and more now! I don’t know… it’s wearing for you guys now, but at least it’s only temporary. Enjoy it while it lasts and then you will be able to look back and laugh at the things people used to say to you in years to come, when you hopefully swap the “cute” look for something a little more sophisticated!
Post # 7
What about going dress shopping by yourself or with a friend who will back you up? Once you find one or two you really like, you can bring your mom back for the final decision so she’s involved.
Post # 8
Yaaaay I’m glad I’m not that only one 😀 I really don’t mind being “cute” lol it would just be nice if some people took my wedding a little more seriously!
Ohhhh yes and I get the “Do you eat?!” drama all the time as well! I’m usually too small for the size 0 dresses and the salespeople get frusterated sometimes when they don’t have much to put me in – and then blame it on me! There’s entire stores for just plus-size dresses; why can’t there be stores for little-people dresses?! lol
I was trying on a dress one time with my mom and there was another woman probably just a few years older than me on the stand next to me, and I walked out of the dressing room hearing my mom telling her “Oh my goodness you look absolutely beautiful! That dress is just stunning.” And then I walked out and got “Aww Steph, you’re so cute!” :/
Like I said, I don’t mind being small and young-looking and I’m sure I will appreciate it when I’m older, but for now I just have to figure out how to get people to listen to what’s coming out the “little girl’s” mouth :p
Post # 9
@AlwaysSunny: Going with a friend is a good idea – thanks! However, going dress shopping by myself would probly be even more of a joke :p then they would think I was too young, too cute, and that I didn’t have a way to pay for it!
Post # 10
Haha my bf and I are getting engaged soon and I’m 22 But people always think I’m like 18. I’m about 5’6″ and naturally only 106 lbs so I’m just a small person who looks young! My mom also loves princess ball gowns but I feel like I’ll loom even younger! Lol
Post # 11
Yes…. on all sorts of occassions, it was blurted out the most during dress shopping. It makes me feel more like a little girl then an actual woman and I am 27 years old….
My ex’s ex emailed me after we broke up saying she was sorry she did not warn me about him sooner. We chatted back and forth for awhile and decided to meet up for drinks. When we met, she was about 5’10 and looked down at me. “Oh my god! You are so cute and little!!!!”
Um okay…. good thing I thought she was a keeper otherwise she would have been kicking rocks after that comment. I think it isjust one of those comments made with the best intentions even though the person hearing it would take it personally.
Post # 12
I have the same problem, I’m 22, 5 feet tall, and weight 105 lbs. People still think I’m in high school when they see me. I’m going to be starting graduate school in August, and I’m really worried that when I TA undergraduates, they won’t take me seriously because of my height. Boo!
Post # 13
I have always had that same problem. I am 5’3 and weigh somewhere in the area of 110lbs … which is after me putting on a good bit of weight last year. I’ve got a very young looking face and a supposedly high pitched voice – and so people usually assume that I am still in high school. Thankfully though, I didn’t run into any problems while dress shopping … other than some random woman asking me my age and then afterward telling me that I looked much younger.
Post # 14
I’m 19, 5’3 and 100-something pounds. I took a recreational dance class last year, and when the other girls in my class found out how old I was, their jaws dropped. At recital, they started playing the “Guess how old she is” game with the other dancers I didn’t know. Most guesed about 15-16.
I haven’t gone dress shopping yet (only been engaged for a week), but I’m already prepared for the awkward questions about my age and I’m trying to find an outfit that’ll make me look older.
Post # 15
I’m 20 (almost 21), am 5′ and 90lbs. Nobody ever believes how old I am. I can’t wait to get carded on my birthday. Everyone thinks my 14 year old sister is the “sister that’s in college.” She’s taller, got boobs, and mad acne and make up.
Post # 16
I’m 27 and people tend to think I’m much younger. I like this sometimes, but it can be incredibly frustrating… it’s like people don’t think I’m really serious about ‘adult’ things. Yep, I’m almost 30. Yep, I’m getting married. Yep, Fiance looks older than me, but he is actually 2 years younger than me. Sheesh! That’s part of why I really don’t want any balloons at the hall. I made sure to steer everyone away from that. I feel like that would accentuate my perceived ‘youngness’ as opposed to youthfulness. I love fabric ribbons, mirrors, tulle, flowers, etc though, so we’re doing lots of that.