(Closed) You’re spending too much money

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I respect your points, and agree that it’s easy to get swept away in the planning. I have to respectfully disagree about some things – every bride and groom should prioritize what is important to them. For me, having a high quality dress is important. I have no need to keep it after the wedding, so I’ll try to sell it, and I have no problem buying secondhand – but I have no qualms spending a bit extra to get what’s perfect for me. 

I think balance should be the ultimate goal. 🙂 

Post # 4
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

That is awesome.  I love the wine bottles as vases!  What colors are you using?  You have done an excellent job!!!!  I would love to see some pictures of your wedding! Congrats & good luck!  Hope you day is everything you have dreamed of.

Post # 5
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I can see that being on a tight budget worked for you, but there are brides out there who want to spend more money on their wedding, and I think that’s great too! I’m not here to judge anyone for how much they are spending on their wedding – I’m on a tight budget as well, but that doesn’t mean that I feel the brides who are spending more are wasting money.

It’s all a matter of personal resources and preferences! To each her own. 🙂

Post # 6
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The wine bottles as vases are SUCH a great idea!  I’d love to see pictures of your wedding when it’s all through – it sounds like it will be very personal and fun!!!

Post # 7
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You joined this forum, just to post that? Not everyone knows someone in the wedding business so unfortunately we all arent as lucky as you.

Post # 8
1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with most of your post, I’m also a budget and DIY bride, but I think the title of your post is a bit rude. Who are you to judge what amount is too much to spend on a wedding?

Post # 9
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

How much you choose to spend on your wedding is a personal choice that is made between the bride and groom (and any relatives if they are contributing).  Often times the amount of money you choose to spend is relative to what you have.  Spending more than you have isn’t a good idea, but if you have the money, I don’t see anything wrong with choosing to spend it on a wedding – and a great party for your family and friends.


It’s great that you personally made a choice to only spend $2K, but please be open-minded and understand that everyone doesn’t choose to have the same type of wedding as you.

Post # 10
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Spending thousands of dollars on a dress and tens of thousands of dollars on the reception are pointless!


That is really harsh to say. I refuse feel bad that I don’t have to watch every penny. But I don’t rub it in other peoples face about how much I am or am not spending. Spending that money is not pointless to me. To me spending that money allows me to have the wedding I dreamed of as a little girl.

Post # 11
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would have to agree, Although I agree with a lot of the points….I think maybe you should have worded your title a little differently? Put it as this is my opinion type of deal? Otherwise you will be stepping on a lot of toes. Im also a small budget bride but I also respect others who have a big budget

Post # 12
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Thanks for the sentiment, but I think it’s a bit much to tell people whether they’re spending too much on their wedding. I doubt you would appreciate someone telling you that you’re spending too little. Try reading Miss Argyle’s post, and maybe try to be more open-minded to brides of all budgets.

Post # 13
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, why isn’t $2k too much money? Why do you need 150+ people there? I’m sure they’re not all people who are close to you or even will still be part of your life in a few years. Why do you need paper lanterns and a veil? Why don’t you just go down to the courthouse? You’ll still have the end result!

Or MAYBE there are some things that are important to you, even if they’re luxuries and not necessities, and you’re willing to spend some money on them. So how is it that those who are just doing the same thing, and aren’t duplicating your wedding, but happen to be spending more money than you, are spending “too much”?

Post # 14
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Wow, 2K is really amazing! I wish I could pull of a beautiful wedding with that budget.

Unfortunately, a lot of us brides don’t know people who are caterers, nor can get free wine bottles from Olive Garden.  We all have our different priorities and ideas as to what is important to us on our wedding day.  I don’t think it is pointless for a bride to spend thousands of dollars on her dress or her reception if that’s what’s really important for her and she can afford to spend that much.  I think it’s a bit harsh for you to say that some brides’ priorities are pointless.  I can tell you honestly that the amount that I’m gonna be spending for my photos and videos extend your entire wedding budget.  I don’t think that’s pointless at all because having amazing (and professional) photos and videos is something that is non-negotiable for me. 

Sometimes, it also depends on the city where you are having your wedding at.  I just don’t see  how I could do a beutiful ceremony and a great reception with 2K in the city where I’m having my wedding.

With that said, good luck to you! 🙂

Post # 15
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

While you can justify either way, more or less, do what you want!  You get one life so live it up!  You can’t take that money with you when you die so if you’ve got it, go for it.  I don’t think you should put yourself into debt and be depressed about having to pay off this event for many years to come… but come on.  It’s a once in a lifetime CELEBRATION!! CELEBRATE as you see fit!  If you need to spend, spend. If you need to save, save.  Simple as that.

Post # 16
5823 posts
Bee Keeper

There is a lot of room for opinions on Weddingbee, and I understand that some readers will find this post offensive.  I would like to say that this is the OP’s opinion, and you are all free to disagree with the opinion of the OP.  HOWEVER, remember to keep your replies respectful and avoid personal attacks and snarkiness.  The OP’s post did not have any comments personally attacking any bride or group of brides.  It is merely her opinion that most people are spending too much.  Feel free to discuss it here, but remember to keep it civil!

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