Post # 1
Okay, so here is the story. I’m a student doctor. Two years ago, I lost nearly 110 lbs. Medical school started and due to sitting while studying 16 hours a day, I regained some of it. I’m still a size 14 and an XL top.
So I was at my hospital rotation today with another student, an attending, and a patient. The patient was morbidly obese, diabetic, hypertensive and in chronic renal failure. My attending didn’t speak very much English, but looked at me and said “how old are you?”
I repled “25, why?”
He said “you’re too fat for 25, this could be you at 55.” I was mortified that he said it in front of the patient, and in front of a student that I was with. He then turned to her and said “do you agree?” and she just stood there, motified.
I know that I gained some weight, but I am in no way morbidly obese or sedentary. I work out a few times a week, I don’t eat fast food or binge myself to excess. I know I should let it go as a person and move on, but I’m so unbelievably pissed that I can’t stop thinking about it.
The only thing worse than being publicly humiliated is being humiliated about my weight, especially since I’ve come so far in the last two years. What pisses me off more is that the doctor himself had a waist that was nearly comparable in size to mine.
Post # 3
He was definitely in the wrong. I hope you will remember this feeling when you are a doctor. Way too many doctors lack sensitivity when they are dealing with patients in front of other people.
Post # 5
I’m sorry. People are stupid.
Post # 6
=-O oh wow that person is a jerk. Just hold your head high for coming as far as you have and let the negitivity roll off your back. I’m nearly the same size and age as you (size 12 and 26 years old) I don’t think I’m fat but I know I’m a little bigger. You’re fine, they have the problem.
Post # 7
WOW! That was UNCALLED FOR!! He sounds like a jerk (though to be fair, some cultures think this is appropriate…but sorry, in America it’s just plain RUDE!!!). I FEEL your pain! I have lost 100lbs, and kept it off!! I am now a size 13/14 in jeans!! (GO US!)
I almost died in the dressing room, while trying on wedding gowns…my mother told the consultant, “Oh, she’s touchy about her size”, and then she just looked at me and said, “Don’t worry, she knows how to fit brides that are YOUR size”.
I felt like an elephant wearing a wedding dress, and we are seriously not that big!! I am 30-40lbs overweight for my height, admittedly..and also 25!!
The doctor was rude, you should be proud of yourself for losing weight, yes you put more on but you’re also sitting 16hr days!! You’re doing the right thing by trying to take care of yourself…you are TRYING that’s ALL that matters!!
Post # 8
@HappilyEverAfter54: Houston, we have a problem! You are not “bigger” at size 12. The average size is 14.
Post # 9
So sorry you had to experience that. I would have been mortified as well. (hugs) I’m sure that WON’T be your future.
Post # 10
How rude. These are the types of doctors I try to stay away from….
Post # 11
@julies1949: well I guess I could say thicker? I am classified as over weight but I don’t feel unhealthy =)
Post # 14
OP, Aw man, that sucks! You totally should have thrown it in his face that you understand this and have worked to lose 110 pounds and mention that you don’t have any chronic disease states though he seems to be in chronic male PMS!
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
That’s not okay and it’s not fair either. I know he meant well, but he showed it in a completely inappropriate way, especially with others present.