Post # 1
I’ve lost quite a lot of weight by changing my lifestyle. I would say I lead a balanced lifestyle, I prefer to say ‘balanced’ than ‘healthy’ because I have not cut anything out completely, I still eat chocolate, drink beer and wine, have take away, eat cake…..I never feel deprived.
What I have stopped is my binge eating. I had to admit to myself I have an issue with binge eating. I would buy a big of sweets or chocolate and eat the whole bag in one sitting on secret (often on the way home from the the supermarket) if I hadn’t finished before I arrived home I would walk around the block to try and finish it so my SO wouldn’t know.
I’ve taken up running, which I love. I haven’t been for a while because I injured my foot but ive got a race tomorrow and quite excited about it.
I am 5’5″ and weighed 82kg, I now weigh around 55kg (give or take a kilo or so).
I’ve had quite a few comments about my weight…and some of them haven’t been pleasant. I’ve been told a few times now I’m ‘too thin’. The thing that’s worrying me is that when I was at my biggest, I never knew I had got so big until I now look back on photos…I am scared this is another case where I don’t recognise I’ve got too thin?? My Fiance has constantly assured me I’m not too thin, that I eat (one question he got asked today: surely she isn’t even eating to be that thin?’) and that he thinks maybe they’re jealous. I don’t think they’re jealous, but these comments are upsetting me. I don’t have an issue with food…I never eat in secret, I don’t count calories, I don’t weigh my food, I don’t weigh myself that much (this was something I did regularly when I first started losing weight. Now I’ve got into the swing of things I don’t check on my weight anywhere near as often). I used to always be excited that I could fit into UK size 8/10 clothes when I first lost the weight. Now the novelty has worn off and it’s becoming a bit more ‘normal’.
I guess I’m wondering if anyone has any advice?? Been in my position?
I’ve included photos for you to see what I was like and what I’m like now.
Post # 3
You look very healthy now IMO, before you were carrying extra weight. I think we’ve got so used to seeing people bigger in general that healthy weights look “too thin”. Also, vanity clothes sizing is so prevalent now and that further skews things.
Post # 4
PS well done, you look fantastic! 👏🏻
Post # 5
I can relate. I’m also 5’5 and before I got pregnant I was 50 kg. I am blessed with a good metabolism. I eat whatever I want whenever I want. But I don’t overeat, not on purpose, I just dont like feeling stuffed.
But I would get those comments my whole life. I dont really have any advice to you, other than just ignore it. My doctor was never concerned about my weight.
Even during pregnancy I would get comments and I got so tired of it. I just wanted to look big and pregnant!
You look amazing though so dont let people make you feel bad. You dont look too thin, and you’re eating and being healthy so that’s all that matters!
Post # 6
It doesn’t sound like your eating habits or mental health are poor (which is the main thing) and you don’t look unhealthy to me.
It may just be that they’re not used to your new weight yet and they’re worried that you may have gotten there in a destructive way.
Post # 7
BellaBeau : thanks. I really appreciate it. These comments have really been getting me down lately. Everyone knows it’s rude to tell someone they’re too fat, yet it seems acceptable to tell someone they’re too thin.
Post # 8
You are not “too thin,” your body type is long and lean and they need to get used to it. It’s evident even when you bad some more pounds/ inflammation from unhealthy eating, (which, by the way, doesn’t look “so big” to me either-).
Do what has you feel good. Do check in with your fiancé, it’s always good to have someone whose opinion we trust,
but from here, you look healthy, bee. Good for you!
Post # 9
You look amazing! Truly. And if you feel good and healthy (and aren’t engaging in destructive eating or exercise patterns) that’s what matters.
I’m quite thin naturally and have been my entire life – comments like that, and more, have always been directed my way. Just ignore them, as annoying and hurtful as they can sometimes be. It took me a long time to be able to do that, and to be confident in how I looked when I was constantly hearing about how skinny I am, but it feels great to be there now. Like a PP, said people may just not be used to how you look now, and hopefully the comments will die down soon.
Post # 10
You honestly look incredible bee. It sounds like your lifestyle and outlook towards food are both much healthier now than they were in the past. People are probably just surprised at your transformation, but also downright rude to be saying these comments to you. You are a perfectly healthy weight and size for your height. Don’t let them get you down bee!
Post # 11
You look great! I agree that some people may be jealous, and others may just be surprised if they haven’t seen you in a while. People can be rude but only a doctor can make the call if you’ve lost “too much.”
Post # 12
londongirl1988 : First of all, I think you look great and healthy! And you are describing really healthy habits which, in the long run, are better for you as a whole (which is truly the only thing that matters, right?).
It’s hard to tell you to ignore the comments, but try your best to do so. You’re doing whats right for you. For what it’s worth, people think all the time it’s ok to make comments about my weight/height, or how I don’t eat anything (usually as I’m stuffing my face right in front of them). It’s a lot easier to have selective hearing about it when you know that whatever they say, you are the only person who knows how much better you feel. Sometimes if there is someone really obnoxious, I will slap back some obnoxiousness by talking about how hard it is to find clothes that fit with vanity sizing getting worse. That usually ends the conversation since it flips the discomfort over to them. It isn’t nice, but it’s effective.
Post # 13
You’re not too thin. For the heck of it, I even plugged your stats into a BMI calculator and it came back as “normal.” Besides, if you’re happy and leading a balanced lifestyle, who the heck cares???
I say this, btw, as a fat person working on losing 120 pounds (42 pounds down, 78 to go). It’s easier to say someone is too thin than to admit you may need to work on yourself.
Post # 14
You were obviously overweight before and now you look amazing. The people making these comments to you are jealous. Weight loss can bring a lot of ugliness in people.
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
I think you look great. If you feel healthy, aren’t depriving yourself and your energy levels are good then that’s all that matters.
My best friend has two young children and she mentions her diets and weight a few times a week. She’s fainted at work twice now because she’s severely imiting calories to stay a UK size 4/ US 8 and I’ve told her I worry for her but her husband keeps telling her she doesn’t have the body she had pre kids. No shit. I only voice my concerns with her because I know how obsessed she is over her weight. I would never say anything to someone else unless I was close to them and genuinely concerned.
In your shoes I would either tell people it’s rude to comment on someone’s weight or say you are happy and healthy.