"You're too thin"

posted 2 months ago in Wellness
Post # 3
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You look very healthy now IMO, before you were carrying extra weight. I think we’ve got so used to seeing people bigger in general that healthy weights look “too thin”. Also, vanity clothes sizing is so prevalent now and that further skews things.  

Post # 4
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

PS well done, you look fantastic! 👏🏻

Post # 5
969 posts
Busy bee

I can relate. I’m also 5’5 and before I got pregnant I was 50 kg. I am blessed with a good metabolism. I eat whatever I want whenever I want. But I don’t overeat, not on purpose, I just dont like feeling stuffed.

But I would get those comments my whole life. I dont really have any advice to you, other than just ignore it. My doctor was never concerned about my weight. 

Even during pregnancy I would get comments and I got so tired of it. I just wanted to look big and pregnant!

You look amazing though so dont let people make you feel bad. You dont look too thin, and you’re eating and being healthy so that’s all that matters!

Post # 6
2855 posts
Sugar bee

It doesn’t sound like your eating habits or mental health are poor (which is the main thing) and you don’t look unhealthy to me.

It may just be that they’re not used to your new weight yet and they’re worried that you may have gotten there in a destructive way. 

Post # 8
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

You are not “too thin,” your body type is long and lean and they need to get used to it. It’s evident even when you bad some more pounds/ inflammation from unhealthy eating, (which, by the way, doesn’t look “so big” to me either-). 

Do what has you feel good. Do check in with your fiancé, it’s always good to have someone whose opinion we trust, 

but from here, you look healthy, bee. Good for you! 

Post # 9
92 posts
Worker bee

You look amazing! Truly. And if you feel good and healthy (and aren’t engaging in destructive eating or exercise patterns) that’s what matters. 

I’m quite thin naturally and have been my entire life – comments like that, and more, have always been directed my way. Just ignore them, as annoying and hurtful as they can sometimes be. It took me a long time to be able to do that, and to be confident in how I looked when I was constantly hearing about how skinny I am, but it feels great to be there now. Like a PP, said people may just not be used to how you look now, and hopefully the comments will die down soon. 

Post # 10
2686 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

You honestly look incredible bee. It sounds like your lifestyle and outlook towards food are both much healthier now than they were in the past. People are probably just surprised at your transformation, but also downright rude to be saying these comments to you. You are a perfectly healthy weight and size for your height. Don’t let them get you down bee! 

Post # 11
119 posts
Blushing bee

You look great! I agree that some people may be jealous, and others may just be surprised if they haven’t seen you in a while. People can be rude but only a doctor can make the call if you’ve lost “too much.”

Post # 12
26 posts


londongirl1988 :  First of all, I think you look great and healthy! And you are describing really healthy habits which, in the long run, are better for you as a whole (which is truly the only thing that matters, right?). 

It’s hard to tell you to ignore the comments, but try your best to do so. You’re doing whats right for you. For what it’s worth, people think all the time it’s ok to make comments about my weight/height, or how I don’t eat anything (usually as I’m stuffing my face right in front of them). It’s a lot easier to have selective hearing about it when you know that whatever they say, you are the only person who knows how much better you feel. Sometimes if there is someone really obnoxious, I will slap back some obnoxiousness by talking about how hard it is to find clothes that fit with vanity sizing getting worse. That usually ends the conversation since it flips the discomfort over to them. It isn’t nice, but it’s effective. 

Post # 13
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You’re not too thin.  For the heck of it, I even plugged your stats into a BMI calculator and it came back as “normal.”  Besides, if you’re happy and leading a balanced lifestyle, who the heck cares???

I say this, btw, as a fat person working on losing 120 pounds (42 pounds down, 78 to go).  It’s easier to say someone is too thin than to admit you may need to work on yourself.

Post # 14
202 posts
Helper bee

You were obviously overweight before and now you look amazing.  The people making these comments to you are jealous.  Weight loss can bring a lot of ugliness in people. 

Post # 15
1983 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

I think you look great. If you feel healthy, aren’t depriving yourself and your energy levels are good then that’s all that matters. 

My best friend has two young children and she mentions her diets and weight a few times a week. She’s fainted at work twice now because she’s severely imiting calories to stay a UK size 4/ US 8 and I’ve told her I worry for her but her husband keeps telling her she doesn’t have the body she had pre kids. No shit. I only voice my concerns with her because I know how obsessed she is over her weight. I would never say anything to someone else unless I was close to them and genuinely concerned.

In your shoes I would either tell people it’s rude to comment on someone’s weight or say you are happy and healthy. 

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