"You're too thin"

posted 1 month ago in Wellness
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I’d try to assume the best in them. Remember, they had a sense of what it meant for you to be “normal”. Now, you’re far thinner than default-in-their-mind you. It just takes time for them to adjust! I lost 35 pounds (with 20-30 to go), and the first time I saw my hair stylist, she went on about how I needed to start eating. I found it amusing, since my current weight is about 3 pounds over the healthy BMI cutoff. 

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

It’s probably a shock for people since you had a drastic change.

I’m 5’4″ also 55 kilos and feel like I should shed a few,  definitely not too thin. 

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

londongirl1988 :  I think you just have a petite build. Not too thin IMO. 5’5 and 120lbs looks different on different women.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee

I think you look great both ways. Whatever makes you happy for the right reasons. 

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Just wanted to say that you look absolutely gorgeous. I can totally relate though. I’m about your height and weigh 104 lbs (47 kg). I’ve been underweight my whole life despite eating all day long. It’s just the way my metabolism works. It’s really hard to brush off the nasty comments. I’ve been accused of having eating disorders before. In high school I only worse long sleeves because the other girls were mean about how skinny my arms are. I wish women would keep their thought to themselves about other women’s bodies. 

The worst recent comment was from my Mother-In-Law. She was talking about how sore her breasts were when she was pregnant/breastfeeding, so her husband couldn’t touch them when they were bigger. She turns to me and says, “I want before and after pictures of you when you get pregnant so we can see what you look like with cleaveage.” WTF! First of all, gross. Secondly how insulting! I’ve always felt self conscious of my small chest. It made me feel like less of a women, especially in middle school and high school when all of my friends were “blossoming” and I was not. From the neck down, I could probably still pass for 12. Comments like those suck, but I carry on. 

Rambling aside, you look amazing and healthy. Keep your head up and ignore all of the jealousy. 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m sure those people just got used to you looking the way you did before and they were shocked by the difference. You’re happy with the change and you’re not depriving yourself, so let them adjust to your new look for like a year and you probably won’t get these comments anymore.

Post # 37
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Worker bee

You look amazing! 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

Oh, dear, we just can’t win… Either we are too thin, or too fat, or too worried about appearance, or not worried enough. There are always people who’re going to find fault in others no matter what. So don’t care what random people think. Trust your doctor, trust those worth trusting. Live your life and rock that wonderful bod of yours. You look fantastic and your journey is inspiring!

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

  You look fine. If it’s not a healthcare professional saying you are too thin, laugh it off.  Everyone is an expert  these days. (ps I am a personal trainer and nutritionist)

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I really think that our society has gotten a distorted view of what a healthy weight actually is. By BMI I am considered over weight right now, I don’t feel good about myself and my clothes don’t fit well. By body fat percentage I am normal/over weight because I carry a lot of muscle so BMI isn’t the most accurate assessment. When I say I’m trying to lose a bit of weight or get in shape I get bombarded with comments or questions about how I’m not overweight or why would I want to become sooooo skinny? (I’m 5’3” and 155 pounds, I feel I look my best around 130-135) so losing 20 pounds. But people think that a size 2 must have an eating disorder now, because the new normal is so much larger. You look great, that’s like my ideal body type I’m aiming for right now! Don’t listen to people who clearly don’t know what the human body is actually meant to look like at a healthy weight.

Post # 41
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Newbee

 

Exact same situation as you.

I know I look great, but most of all I feel freaking fantastic.

People say ‘oh, you are too thin now’ and things like that. They are jealous. =P

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

londongirl1988 :  I’m not saying this so the case for you, but in my personal experience, the people who tell me I’m too thin are always overweight or trying and struggling to lose weight themselves, or thin and beautiful but insecure with low self esteem. I think it does tend to be more jealousy or insecurity driven when these comments are made and people think it’s okay because they’re calling you the opposite of fat. And when I do gain a little weight and then set out to lose it, I have people try and discourage me from that saying I’m too thin (when I know very well that clothes that used to fit fine are tight). I’ve also found the same with people saying an exaggerated low number and asking, “What, you only weigh 100 pounds? How thin do you want to be?” – When it’s very obvious that I don’t weigh that little. 

I know it’s hard and annoying, but definitely ignore it. You look perfect. 

Post # 43
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Newbee

I am 167cm (5’5) tall and am 49kg. I stay around this weight and am generally healthy. 

If you are not dieting excessively, exercising too much or having any other issue with food then I do not see a problem. You look good and healthy.

Post # 44
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Helper bee

londongirl1988 :  You look slender but not unhealthy in your ‘after’ picture. Plus you say you’ve taken up running- while a pound of muscle and a pound of fat both weigh a pound, muscle has a smaller mass than fat, which can make you look leaner. I think you look fantastic and you also sound like you have a healthy attitude. You’ve also cut out some unhealthy practices like eating in secret and weighing yourself too frequently. Good for you Bee! 

p.s. as someone who has to really work at getting to/ keeping a healthy weight, your success and attitude are inspirational 🙂 

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Um you look fantastic, congratulations on the weight loss! That is a very healthy and slender weight for your height and people are likely just not used to seeing you like this or are jealous

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