(Closed) "you're too young to be married"

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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mrsmossyoak:  DH’s and my timeline is exactly like yours. Met at 16, engaged at 21, married at 22, and now 23. Except in our community I get a lot more comments like: “No kids yet? what the hell’s the matter with ya!?” I just roll my eyes, we are actually expecting but the whole world doesn’t need to know yet. It seems people judge you for being too old or too young no matter what age you are.

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

People are ridiculous–I know it’s annoying to hear but I would just try to brush off their ignorant comments. I’ve had a few coworkers/people who don’t know me very well comment on me getting married at 24 (even though my fiance and I have been together for quite awhile) and I just shrug it off since I know we are ready for this step. I doubt anyone close to you would say those things since it seems like you & your husband have a long, wonderful history together. I think it is totally appropriate in situations like that to just say “yes, I am married” and leave it at that. No need to explain yourself to people who are busy judging you!

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Sand Key Park- Clearwater Beach Elopement

I’m 22, and my fiance is 24. We will be 23 and 25 when we get married. Two weeks after my fiance and I got engaged, we spent a weekend in Orlando at our favorite hotel. It gives us a chance to be out of the area for once. When we were there, the lady at the front desk recognized us. She’s a nice lady, and she talked with us for a bit. We told her we were in Orlando for a weekend away to celebrate our engagement and so I could look for my dress (which I found that weekend during the trip). She then said, “Wow, engaged? You two are so young!” She said it in a certain tone, one that had a hint of, You’re too young to get married”. I didn’t like that much. It kinda hurt my feelings a bit. Yes we are young. And???

I just brushed it off in the end, though. No big deal. I don’t think it was appropriate for her to say something like that, though.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m 21 and my BF is 23. We’re getting married next year and so far no one has said we’re too young. His mom is the only one that might think so, but that’s only because she had never married or really settled down. I do agree you change a lot from 18-21, at least I have, but I still want the same things and BF and I are on the same page. It helps that we both were never into the party stage and pretty much act like an old married couple already lol. But just brush it off… People will talk and say you’re doing things wrong no matter if you waited 10 years to get married. Do what makes you and your Fiance happy. (:

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