(Closed) You're wearing WHAT to my wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 2
8457 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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daniellemc:  Why do you care though? You know why she’s doing it, you know it will reflect poorly on her, not you. So why give her even more attention?

Post # 3
986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015


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daniellemc:  My mom almost bought an ivory dress for my wedding in August. When she showed me, I straight up told her “Nope, this is my day”. I went with her, and we found her a really nice Navy blue dress.

Post # 4
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I know that you have asked her to wear a different dress but have you told her why YOU see a problem with her wearing ivory? She has already shown she doesn’t really care about the whole not wearing white(or ivory) to a wedding rule, so I think you are going to have to be a bit more blunt if you want her to change. Either that or you need to get ahold of that dress and cause some serious damage to it. 

Post # 5
1383 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

This seems really tricky. Why not purchase her a new dress as a gift? Or if she really wants to stand out a tiny bit, a dress in the same color as your bridesmaids? I feel like that might attract some attention, but positive attention and you’ll both be happy 🙂

Post # 6
2202 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

No one is going to think your gramma is the bride. 

Post # 8
492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel

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whoa_its_ash:  No kidding. If you think you are going to be upstaged by your grandmother wearing a similar colour as you, that’s sad! (Not mean sad, but sad as in you should feel more special than that!)

Post # 9
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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MissKristi:  Oh some ladies just can’t stand someone looking similar to them on their special day. 

OP, if I remember correctly, the first time I was married I do not know what most people wore. 

Post # 10
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

let her wear the dress, if she doesn’t wear that dress then she is going to find something else attention seeking to do that could be a lot worse.

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Post # 11
1286 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Meh, let her wear the dress.

Post # 12
4044 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Let her wear the dress. No one is going to confuse grandma as the bride! Pick your battles. 

Post # 13
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016


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daniellemc:  What I would give if my mom or my grandma could be at my wedding! I would let them wear whatever they wanted because at the end of the day, it’s just a dress. No one is going to upstage you. You’re clearly the bride, not your grandmother, so try if you can to be happy and enjoy the fact that your grandmother is alive and well to come to your wedding.

Post # 14
13814 posts
Honey Beekeeper


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whoa_its_ash:  said.

Personally, I wouldn’t do it, but I wouldn’t care if someone else did. Traditional etiquette still says no, but Emily Post does say white or ivory are OK now. 

Post # 15
345 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’d never tell my grandma what she could and couldn’t wear. 

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