Post # 1
I accidentally closed my last post.
So about 2 years go my grandmother wore an ivory gown to my cousin’s wedding… Yes, she wore an ivory gown to her granddaughters wedding. Everyone was talking about how inappropriate it was. Grandma likes to be the center of attention though. It doesn’t matter to her what anyone thinks as long as she gets the attention. Guess what she told me she’s wearing to my wedding? The same dress. AND she sees nothing wrong with it. I’ve asked her to choose a different dress because “you look so good in blue grandma” but she just doesn’t get it. Anyone else deal with this? Did you get your mom/FMIL/grandma to change their mind? I’ve got 5 months till my wedding to get her to ditch the ivory gown.
Post # 2
Why do you care though? You know why she’s doing it, you know it will reflect poorly on her, not you. So why give her even more attention?
Post # 3
My mom almost bought an ivory dress for my wedding in August. When she showed me, I straight up told her “Nope, this is my day”. I went with her, and we found her a really nice Navy blue dress.
Post # 4
I know that you have asked her to wear a different dress but have you told her why YOU see a problem with her wearing ivory? She has already shown she doesn’t really care about the whole not wearing white(or ivory) to a wedding rule, so I think you are going to have to be a bit more blunt if you want her to change. Either that or you need to get ahold of that dress and cause some serious damage to it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
This seems really tricky. Why not purchase her a new dress as a gift? Or if she really wants to stand out a tiny bit, a dress in the same color as your bridesmaids? I feel like that might attract some attention, but positive attention and you’ll both be happy 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
No one is going to think your gramma is the bride.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2015 - Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel
No kidding. If you think you are going to be upstaged by your grandmother wearing a similar colour as you, that’s sad! (Not mean sad, but sad as in you should feel more special than that!)
Post # 9
Oh some ladies just can’t stand someone looking similar to them on their special day.
OP, if I remember correctly, the first time I was married I do not know what most people wore.
Post # 10
let her wear the dress, if she doesn’t wear that dress then she is going to find something else attention seeking to do that could be a lot worse.
Post # 11
Meh, let her wear the dress.
Post # 12
Let her wear the dress. No one is going to confuse grandma as the bride! Pick your battles.
Post # 13
What I would give if my mom or my grandma could be at my wedding! I would let them wear whatever they wanted because at the end of the day, it’s just a dress. No one is going to upstage you. You’re clearly the bride, not your grandmother, so try if you can to be happy and enjoy the fact that your grandmother is alive and well to come to your wedding.
Post # 14
Personally, I wouldn’t do it, but I wouldn’t care if someone else did. Traditional etiquette still says no, but Emily Post does say white or ivory are OK now.
Post # 15
I’d never tell my grandma what she could and couldn’t wear.