Post # 1
So there is this girl I am friends with on Facebook. We were both in band in high school and had a lot of mutual friends so we would end up at the same events and things like that. Note that we graduated five years ago and I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen her since then. Also, when we were in high school I happen to know that I wasn’t her favorite person, I was in charge of our section in band and she would frequently say nasty things to me before storming out of practice. I have seen her exactly one time, for ten minutes maybe, in the last three years.
So she posts on FB today. “I just wanted to let everyone know how excited I am for all my “friends” weddings that are going to happen this fall! Also wanted everyone to know how happy I am that I have realized who my true friends are from all these wedding invites for the fall. Maybe I should give shout outs to these lucky friends? …Eh you know who you are! =) “
And yes, she is most definitely talking about me, I’m the only one who’s sent out her invites so far. And here’s the funny thing – I sent her one! But I got the address wrong so it got sent back to me. I was going to correct it, put in a little sticky note apologizing for the lateness, and put it back int he mail today. Now I think that I might not. We aren’t close in the first place, I was just inviting her so that she wouldn’t feel left out. But geez, way to be a drama queen about it!
Post # 3
I would comment exactly what you said. “Oh By The Way, I did send you an invite, but wrote your address wrong by mistake, so it got sent back to me. Glad you posted this, so that I don’t have to resend it!”
Then, defriend her
Post # 4
Difficult situation!!! Not sure what I’d do if I were you. She’s obviously upset that you didn’t invite her, but I suppose she’s also told her friends you haven’t invited her.
Now, if you DO invite her, will she believe that you got her address wrong, or will she just think you decided to invite her after her facebook appeal???
I honestly don’t know!!!
Post # 5
Sometimes the best response is no response. I would not respond to her directly, because she did not speak to me directly. If she wants to know, she would have to approach me. That is her loss, because obviously she was looking forward to it.
Post # 6
Why would you invite this person in the first place? I wouldn’t resend the invite.
Post # 7
@mrsBtoBee: Exactly! Plus I don’t even want to invite her after seeing that, obviously she’s still acting like she is in high school. She’s not married so maybe she doesn’t understand that making a guest list is hard, no need to take it all personally and post on facebook and try to make people feel bad about it!
Post # 8
There is no need to respond or resend the invite, but if you feel you need to, or want to say something, I would private message her, no need to stoop to her level of publicly trying to call someone out or humilate them. Let her know the honest truth, you sent an invite it was misaddressed and was returned. And even tell her that based on her post, you no longer feel comfortable with her attendance at your wedding, that you want to be surrounded by people that love you and are truly supportive of you in your life.
If she isn’t a friend, why do you care if she is there or what she thinks? If you need to say something, say it privately… Then leave it. I would then not only defriend her but block her so that she cannot message you back with snarky remarks or post comments on your posts… You don’t need the stress. In the big scheme of things, this is just not worth it.
Post # 9
Ignore her and just cut off communication, she sounds petty and childish.
Post # 10
Why invite her in the first place? It doesnt sound like you guys are even friends?
Post # 11
It could also be a method for her to “blackmail” or bully you into getting an invite since she obviously thinks you didn’t send her one.
Personally, I wouldn’t bother sending it to her after pulling a stunt like that.
Post # 12
This. Why did you invite her if you’re not friends and you’ve only seen her once in the last 3 years?
I wouldn’t even respond and I wouldn’t re-send the invite.
Post # 13
I am sorry but are you still in high school? And I don’t mean that snarky or anything but your post completely reminded me of high school childish games. Just either ignore her or defriend her.
Post # 14
@milesbella: We have a ton of mutual friends and I felt a bit of pressure to invite her since she is the only one from that group of school friends who wouldn’t be invited, she really doesn’t have any close friends and I was sure someone would say something about me leaving her out. But her post just left me thinking that some of us apparantely never left high school mentally…I won’t bother responding.
Post # 15
@nickie362: I would do the same thing!
how RIDICULOUS is she??!! ignore her
Post # 15
@Sassygrn: Um, how am I acting high school-ish here? I am ignoring her post, just felt like venting here about it. Thought other brides would maybe of dealt with something similar and get how annoying it is.